Hello there beautiful souls,
This year I decided to change the theme from Slow Dance Sunday to Wander Wednesday where I will share three things on my mind - for a quick read midweek for you to wonder while wandering through life.
Just a different framework for me to show up in a new way.
New Year, New Me- Bullshit
How has your 2026 been? Did you write down a whole damned list of new year resolution?
We have been through this year after year, where the new year comes, and we start making this list and by the first week of January we have already “flunked” it, get demotivated and then go on with the year as usual.
This year let’s try something different. Let’s think about our life as a continuum instead of a restart button. Life does not magically start or end merely with a clock ticking at 12 midnight on a particular day after 52 weeks.
Here are 3 prompts to tackle this. Let’s only think about 1 aspect of life you would love to work on this year 2026.
1) What are you already doing that you are happy with and would like to continue?
2) Is there room for improvement for this? If yes—how exactly? Be specific.
3) How will you feel if you manage to achieve these improvement? Visualise it.
How do you look like when you achieved it?
What are you doing?
What are you thinking?
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My personal intention for this year is - to stop talking about it, but rather just do it!
Self Conviction
I wrote down 50 reflections I learnt from 2025 and I would like to share the most important one that I am carrying into 2026
Be extremely sure of yourself that you neither crumble to the words of others nor the perception of others even if you hold them dearly to you. If someone thinks a certain way about you, they are entitled to (everyone is entitled to their own opinion) but most importantly is knowing, with certainty, who you are. This is not about being closed to criticism or feedback, or refusing to see your own blindspot, but rather truly examining yourself so thoroughly to the extent that no one can shake your core with mere words, perceptions and assumptions.
True self-conviction lies in:
allowing others to have their opinions (acceptance)
without needing to justify or defend yourself
without getting upset
without avoiding them altogether
That calm certainty—that’s self-conviction. Knowing thyself creates internal safety, and from that safety, the nervous system stabilises.
To Each their Own
Letting people be and letting people live their lives in their own way is one of the kindest thing we can do as a part of this interconnected world.
If someone is leading a life completely different than yours- learn to be okay with it. We are all granted this life with a choice. Being less critical of others - and also ourselves is essential to living with joy. Condemning others just because they have different mindset, hobbies, interests, passions and way of living is quietly detrimental to our own mental health. Beware of the ego trap of being superior than others as this is one of the most dangerous loop to get stuck on- as it is not easy to escape once it gets internalised. Unfortunately, some people stay in this mindset for decades.
Let me be clear: I am not advocating to be an enabler of bad behaviours but I am emphasising acceptance of others for who they are, allowing them to be fully themselves and not be condescending simply because they are different from us. Magic lies in true and full acceptance.
Let people speak. Let them complete their sentences. Watch how their eyes light up when they share about what they love- even if it sounds absolutely ridiculous to you, even if their hobbies sound like a nightmare to you.
Allow it.
Sit with it.
Listen intently.
Be curious.
You may even find a new perspective at the end of it. We are all shaped by different conditioning, upbringing, culture, environment and preferences. That is the beauty of human diversity- we are not meant to be the same.
“Different does not mean wrong”
Let’s shift from “I am better than you”
to
“Wow, we are so different, and that’s okay because truly- to each their own”
I’ll end this piece with a well-loved Thai saying- “SAME SAME BUT DIFFERENT”.
Until next Wednesday, may you wander and wonder through your days — living life as a continuum-with clarity, self conviction and acceptance of every being as they are. Happy New Year!
Much love,
Dr Sharolyn
A quote Im thinking about
“Settle on the type of person you want to be and stick to it, whether alone or in company” ―MARCUS AURELIUS
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